This is not just a question for me—it’s something I’ve lived, felt, and learned through some of the hardest times of my life. I used to think love was everything a person needed to survive. I believed love meant hope, strength, peace, and happiness. I thought love alone could fix everything. But life showed me a different side. Through pain, struggle, and emotional hurt, I understood that love is powerful, but it cannot take the place of money. And money, while not emotional or warm like love, plays a big role in survival and peace. In my story, I had to face both love without money and moments when money brought insecurity into love. This blog is a reflection of that experience.
What Love Means to Me
To me, love is everything. It’s the most important feeling that gives a person hope to live. Love is not just romance—it is care, honesty, friendship, peace, and connection. I always believed that love can keep a person alive even in the darkest days. I’m someone who believes in love deeply. Even after being hurt, I still love nature, animals, and my children. I am the kind of person who gives her heart fully when she loves. Love gives meaning to life, but I also learned that love must begin with yourself. If you don’t love yourself, you will always be empty inside, even if someone else loves you.
The Role of Love Life
Love in my life came with challenges. I loved my husband with all my heart, but he abused me. I didn’t know how to love myself at that time—I only knew how to give love, not receive it. I stayed in that marriage, hoping love would make things better. But it only gave me pain. Later, I started to love myself, and that changed everything. Self-love gave me strength, healing, and personal growth. Today, I still believe in love, but I no longer forget myself in it. I have learned that love is not meant to destroy you. It’s meant to protect you, comfort you, and help you grow.
Life with Love and Money
In childhood, love and money were not a problem. My father took care of our needs, and I never asked for much. I was bold and independent. I would save my pocket money to buy what I needed and let my parents take care of the rest. But after marriage, everything changed. I loved my husband deeply, but he wasn’t earning. We didn’t have money, and sometimes we didn’t even have food. At the same time, I was being abused. That’s when I realized—without money or education, love becomes very difficult. I was just a 10th-grade young wife with big responsibilities and no support. I learned that if you are hungry, you will always choose food before love. Because survival comes first.
Choosing Between Love and Money
I didn’t get to choose one. I had to carry both. I loved my husband, took care of him, and at the same time, I arranged money for us to live. I always kept both together. But I slowly understood how heavy that became—loving someone while also carrying all the responsibilities that they refused to take. I gave love, but also became the provider. It was painful, and it made me feel alone even while being married.
Can Love Survive Without Money?
No, it can’t—not for long. Love needs support, comfort, and basic needs to stay strong. If two people are constantly hungry, tired, and stressed about survival, love starts to break down. Money brings stability, and without that, even the most beautiful relationship can start to fade. If you’re starving, you can’t focus on love. On the other side, when money is there, people often start loving each other more—sometimes not even truly, but just because things feel easier. That’s how money and love are connected, whether we like it or not.
The Role of Money in Relationships
I have seen clearly how money affected my relationship. When I arranged money from others, my husband showed more love. But when I started earning myself, he changed. He became jealous and insecure. Even though he told me I should work, his actions showed something else. He wasn’t proud—he was uncomfortable. That’s when I saw how money can create distance too. Sometimes, it makes the other person feel small. So, I kept asking myself—what should I choose? Should I stop earning just to protect his ego, or should I protect my own peace?
What Is More Sustainable?
In my experience, a money-driven life with less emotional connection is more sustainable. It sounds sad, but it’s real. Because emotions can’t fill your stomach. Emotions get weaker when there is no stability. Even love becomes painful when there is no support. You may cry, break down, or feel helpless. But when you have money, at least you have power. You have freedom. You can walk away if you are being treated badly. That gives you strength.
What Success Means
To me, success isn’t just about money, status, or being praised by others. It’s about living a life where both your heart and your needs are taken care of. I believe real success is a balance of both love and money, because each brings something unique to your life. Love brings emotional connection, warmth, and a reason to wake up every morning with a full heart. Money brings security, freedom, and strength to make choices that protect your well-being. But I’ve also learned a powerful truth: if your partner doesn’t love you, your own self-love becomes more than enough. There was a time I didn’t even see my own worth, because I was busy loving someone else who only gave me pain. But now, I understand that even if nobody else loves me, I must love myself. Because from self-love, everything begins—peace, confidence, and the ability to walk through life without begging for respect. Money can help build your life, but love—especially the one you give to yourself—is what makes that life meaningful. When you can hold both in your hands with balance, that’s not just success—that’s real, lasting happiness.
What I Would Tell My Younger Self
If I could sit across from my younger self—the innocent girl who believed that love could fix everything—I would hold her hand and say this: Sweetheart, love yourself first. Don’t lose yourself trying to prove your worth to someone who refuses to see it. Don’t give away all your light to someone who only brings darkness into your world. Respect yourself, protect your peace, and never forget—you are worthy of the love you give so freely to others. I would tell her that money may not be everything, but it gives you the power to stand on your own feet. It gives you options, confidence, and the strength to say no when love becomes hurtful. Money is not love, but it’s necessary for a peaceful, stable life. Build yourself, educate yourself, and choose your path before you choose someone to walk it with. And most importantly, never sacrifice your identity or your dreams just to keep someone else comfortable. You deserve a love that holds your hand and walks beside you, not one that drags you down or makes you feel small.
And to anyone reading this, who’s been through heartbreak, struggle, or confusion—just remember this: Your worth does not depend on how much someone else loves you. It depends on how deeply you love, value, and protect yourself. Choose you. Always.
"You can survive without love, but you cannot truly live without self-respect. Build your life with both strength and softness—because you deserve peace, not just promises."
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